Friday, May 6, 2011


"Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath." James 1:19

Most times, people do not loose their job because of technical incompetence, but because of relational incompetence; they do not know how to get along with others.  If you have control of the 3 directions that James gave, the probability of that happening to you will be removed.

  • Be swift to hear!  When you are calm and do not react, you obtain understanding and respect! "A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards." Proverbs 29:11
  • Slow to Speak!  If you talk too much or too fast, there are 3 tips to slow you down: [a] Stop talking and inhale.  Count up to ten.  You can go to the restroom.  [b] Practice not interrupting.  Allow the other person to continue what they are saying until they are through.  [c] Ask yourself these questions: Why am I talking too much?  Is it insecurity?  Anxiety?  The need to control?  The desire to impress?  The reason most of us try to convince, impress or control others is we have a hard time trusting God to work things out.  That is, "our talk issue, is a trust issue."
  • Slow to wrath!  When you observe the first two directions, you will come out all right on number 3.  It will just happen.

You can make progress on these 3 directions and you can start now.  If you do it consistently, you will say to yourself, "I am glad that I took the wisdom of God seriously."

Welcome to the month of Grace

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